Your words made me cringe and I have tears in my heart for your daughter. Kids deserve truth, even if it’s a hard truth that will teach them what is right and wrong in this crazy world.
Also coming out of an emotionally abusive marriage, I kept my mouth shut for years about my ex’s manipulative maltreatment, as agreed upon, until he began turning the manipulation tactics on her, trying to break her soul from worth and self-esteem like he did mine. Of course, all blame for anything and everything was verbalized to her as mine. I finally spoke up, not out of anger, but for her own well being so she would not take his words of degradation towards her as truth to carry with her for the rest of her life. I told her straightforward that it was what he had done to me. As a young teenager, she was able to see his behavior for what it was and let her inner firecracker out that lit my own spark to speak out to him, something I was terrified to do for over a decade. The truth gave both of us power.
Thank you for sharing this Kali, I’m so glad my essay spoke to you. Very happy to hear that you both were able to speak your truth. It’s a hard journey for sure.💕
Thank you Dianne, yes I have, and thankfully she is able to see it now for herself. What is heartbreaking, though, is how experiencing this causes a loss of innocence.
Your words made me cringe and I have tears in my heart for your daughter. Kids deserve truth, even if it’s a hard truth that will teach them what is right and wrong in this crazy world.
Also coming out of an emotionally abusive marriage, I kept my mouth shut for years about my ex’s manipulative maltreatment, as agreed upon, until he began turning the manipulation tactics on her, trying to break her soul from worth and self-esteem like he did mine. Of course, all blame for anything and everything was verbalized to her as mine. I finally spoke up, not out of anger, but for her own well being so she would not take his words of degradation towards her as truth to carry with her for the rest of her life. I told her straightforward that it was what he had done to me. As a young teenager, she was able to see his behavior for what it was and let her inner firecracker out that lit my own spark to speak out to him, something I was terrified to do for over a decade. The truth gave both of us power.
Thank you for sharing this Kali, I’m so glad my essay spoke to you. Very happy to hear that you both were able to speak your truth. It’s a hard journey for sure.💕
I'm so sorry you have had to deal with such toxicity. Clearly, you had to combat the toxicity.
Thank you Nancy🙏🏻💕
And you must continue doing so. What kind of role model is this man who lies, then tell his daughter that lying is okay??!!
Thank you Dianne, yes I have, and thankfully she is able to see it now for herself. What is heartbreaking, though, is how experiencing this causes a loss of innocence.
Yes and perhaps mistrust of others. The father is clearly a very troubled soul.
I'm praying for you. This toxic man is hurting you both so much. Stand your ground with telling the truth. It's the right thing to do. 🙏
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